Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impact grace to the hearers. Ephesians 4:29
For out boasting is this: the testimony of our conscience that we conducted ourselves in the world in simplicity and godly sincerity, not with fleshly wisdom but the grace of God, and more abundantly toward you. 2 Corinthians1:12
Do less talking and more praying. If you don’t humble your ego in front other people. You will speak emotional and everything you say will land on deaf ear. You don’t have to do anything but let God be God. He working everything in His timing. God is God. Learn to love Him first. Cause your love for God will show more of a testimony then anything you can say. If you don’t preach love or with love, then you preach nothing but self knowledge.
He who loves his brother abides in the light and there is no cause for stumbling in him. 1 John 2:10
But exhort one another daily, while it is called “Today,” lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin. Hebrews 4:15
Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. He who does not love does not know God, for God is love. 1 John 4:7-8
He can have compassion on those who are ignorant and going astray, since he himself is also subject to weakness. Hebrews 5:2
If Jesus has compassion for us. Why can’t we have compassion for one another? Compassion is the fruit of the Spirit and is over flow of love. Judgement is not fruit of Spirit. But fruit if love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control (Galatians 5:22) Judge not, that you be not judges. For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; (Matthew 7:1-2) Blind can’t lead the blind. But the righteous can up hold the blind.
My little children, let us not love in word or tongue, but in deed and in truth. 1 John 3:18
Let keep this simply, judge the spirit of the words that someone speaks, not judging the person themselves.
Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits, whether they are of God; because many false prophets have gone out into the world. 1 John 4:1
My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trails, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing. If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. But let him ask in faith, with not doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of sea driven and tossed by the wind. For let not the man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways. James 1:2-8
Reproach: censure, upbraid, condemn, scold, blame